Had the great pleasure and honor of seeing Angela Davis speak today, and wanted to share something that struck me from her speech.
She was speaking about the idea that people can come together as a whole, but also retain their individual identities in terms of race, gender, personality, etc. She referred to this coming together as ‘complex unity.’ I heard her say the phrase and immediately thought it was one of the greatest things I’ve ever heard.
I remember years ago in a high school class I took, we spoke about whether it was a good or bad thing to have a ‘color blind’ society. I stood by the opinion that it was a bad thing, considering we are all unique individuals, and our differences should be celebrated. Acting as if we are all exactly the same doesn’t do justice to the fact that every one on this earth had time taken out of the universe to create them specifically.
The conversation from that class always stuck with me for some reason, and has made me wonder about a lot of things surrounding the topic. So here we are, years later, and Ms. Davis summed up what I had tried to express before with a two word phrase.
I think I recently reached a new level in my love affair with my hair…
First off, I have eradicated the use of the word ‘difficult’ when describing my hair. I used to use it all the time, coupled with phrases like “Why can’t it just…” or “Why won’t it just…”
These days, I choose to use the word resilient.
I can honestly say that every time my hair does something I didn’t want it to do, I love it more. I have this moment where I get super psyched and think ‘Okayyyy. I see you hair. Ain’t tryna listen to nobody, huh! I see you!’ (lol)
But in all realness, the switch in mentality has actually made me a happier person, and has extended past just love for my hair, but just for myself in general.
“Be still. it takes no effort to be still; it is utterly simple. When your mind is still, you have no name, you have no past, you have no relationships, you have no country, you have no spiritual attainment, you have no lack of spiritual attainment. There is just the presence of beingness with itself.”—